Hey Beauty!

BEAUTY SECRETS

What are the simple things, making you more beautiful on other peoples’ eye and the eyes of their hearts?

1) Control the way you talk – Try to stop your mouth from saying bad things to others, and never spread rumors.
2) Control the way you think – Stop thinking negatively what you do and others.
3) Stop being greedy – Be thankful and feel the joy
4) Always try to help others in need – And never hope anything for return.
5) Always put a smile on your face – Especially to those who have problem with you.
6) Never hesitate to share – Sharing is caring~
7) Always wear nice and proper clothing – No need for fancy and brandy clothes, just wear something nice, and clean everyday.

So, remember, beauty is never just about the face!

Take A Break!

Take A Break...Take A Holiday!

Haa…tired of your daily life? Just take a break ,go holiday…spend time with your family and friends, we’re lucky that we’re now in Malaysia, a very peace and beautiful country, just no need to be too extreme when you think about taking a holiday, Paris, New York, New Zealand, Gold Coast are not the only places that when you go you can say that you’d been on a holiday, no, just spend your time and money in our own country…Hundred of awesome places we have…places to swim, to camp, shopping and more!

And I just found out about this new local web site, full of information about Malaysia’s famous places and we can book online reservation to all the hotels and resorts in Malaysia…just click http://www.asiaclickbooking.com/ now and go holiday!

Being A Good Leader

To lead and be followed

Yes today’s hot topic, leadership, I’m not writing this article due to our country’s political condition, just giving some ideas on how to be a leader, that lead with love ~

Your idea is not always the best
>> Having a good meeting session means that you need to listen, to all opinions given and make comparison, think of the pro and con of each idea, don’t care from whom the idea is, because a good leader always let the best idea wins…

Understand your followers’ problem
>> Sometimes, as a leader you need to be “down below” with all the person below you, listen to what they said, understand their needs, before any decisions is made…

Always telling the truth
>>Once you lied to the people, it’s always hard for you to gain back their trust, and when you started to lie, you’ll begin to lie again to cover up your 1st lie..and another and another and another….

Make sure that you’re not just a big name
>>you must show that you play your role and not just giving orders. Don’t be a dictator or a leader with iron fingernail haha…

Say it, and do it!
>> You need to be firm, once you made your decision, you must prove that you can and will do it…be tough!

Always give your fellows compliments
>>Being a boss doesn’t mean that you always get the honest respect from your fellows, you need to show your appreciation to them every time they did something good…

Ok then , hope that they’ll be no more a leader hated by the followers after this…it is not a hard thing to be a leader, but the hard thing is to be a leader that will be followed to whatever ends~

Taking good care of your wife~

She...the wife

For all the husbands out there, you’re all very lucky…. Your wife is your wife, she came into your life and completing it…She’s always a normal person, might not be perfect in many ways…but a wife is always a great gift, always a great gift for you…
I just don’t get it why there’re cases where wives were beaten badly, divorced through sms, post and etc...your wife is the only person that you are allowed by law and religion to spend your time with, share things with, to pour your love as much as you wanted to, sometimes we need to look back to the real reasons why that we wanted so much to get married, basically is to avoid from doing sins.
Don’t take marriage as a small matter, if you feel like you don’t like it, divorce…problems a bit here and there, divorce…this is not and never right…there are a few tips for you ;

***always accept your wife for what she is, don’t imagine like she is someone else

*** It is natural for a wife to nag , just don’t listen for what she said, take the main point and be deaf~

*** Always give appreciation to your wife…give compliments everyday

*** You must understand and give her time to think, to be with her family , some time for her to be alone…

*** You also need to be a good listener when your wife wanted to share things…


These are just a few tips…but just remember that keeping your family happy is everyone’s responsibility, especially you, husband, the head of a family…divorce is always the worst of a legal thing to do…

Stop Hiding!

Appreciating yourself

As I said previously, love yourself first before you start to love someone else. Loving yourself never the same like being selfish, just that never allow yourself to feel you different with the people around, not as smart, not as pretty, not as etc…what the fun! Always believed in yourself, never hope that someone else to do that for you…if you know that you’re doing the right thing, just be yourself, do it, don’t care about all the stupid sounds entering your ear saying that you’re this, you’re that, spread you chest wide, smile and go on, never give up, catch your dream, own it…friends…it’s time to GLOW!

Spread the Love~

It is easy for us say or advice others to love each other, just bury the hatchet, spread the love, and bla bla bla…but does it really easy turning it into action? In today’s world? Where to much wrong things done, when to much hearts seeded with grudge, when the earth already taste too much of tears and blood? I think, it is not an easy thing to spread the love today, to build a loving community that really cares for each other…

After I spent sometimes, relaxing and doing nothing else but thinking, over this matter, I do realize there are a few obstacles that turn out to be the invincible walls, stopping us from being nice and caring in its real meaning.

<1>Difficulty in being honest or sincere
I don’t know either to call it sincerity, or honesty, but how many of us today really have the ability to just give and forget? Especially when we sacrificed the things that means a lot to us, doing things for other that really take a lot of us in many ways…after doing all these , did you really forget about it and does your heart really asked nothing back ?

<2>Jealousy
This one, this feeling really is not a stranger for many hearts…you know what, people said that if you took ecstasy, you won’t realize that you’ve been awake for days, and I said , if you have this feeling, you won’t realize that you’d be a back-stabber, put a dot to a lot of relationship. How to make this jealous feeling jealous?..yeah..be grateful..always be…

<3>"Forgive you?!”
Forgiving others that did wrong deeds upon you is really a hard thing to do, and the biggest obstacle for you to be nice. It is hard, but sometime we need to realize that we won’t be living forever, the time will come, we need to teach our heart to forgive, learn, and forget…If you manage to forgive, means that you have a very strong heart.

<4>Pride
When people owns too much knowledge, money, property,they put themselves at a level higher from those average…feeling that they’re better in many ways, separating themselves away from other, refuse to talk, mingle with everyone else whom for them does not reach their level…pride = community homicide.

We need to understand that every people lived on this world today are born difference with each other, we need to accept that not all people around us is the from the type that we like, sometimes we need to adapt…this world even this life is not belong to us…remember…sharing is caring…

Say Cheeze!

Yeah…say cheese! Hehe, smile is magic. Smile can heal, cheer you up, not only you, but all the people around you, when you smile, you’re actually making your problems mad, all the bad feelings they’d caused gone just like that huhu~

Why you should always put a smile on your face?:

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Smiling actually needs less muscles work, means, less muscle strain + less pain = NICE AND EASY FEELINGS BLOOMED

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A smiling face attracts peoples to you, people will feel more comfortable to get along with you…

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Smiling can make you feel the burden on your shoulder turned lighter, not denying that it is still there, but smiling can make you feel that the problem can be solve and you’ll get extra strength to face it.

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Don’t care about white teeth, nice lips, always you are more beautiful with a smile on your face, today, no one is perfect, don’t stop smiling just because you get laugh at when you smile, when you keep smiling, means that deep inside you are way beautiful and stronger then those who’re laughing at you.

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A smile is so powerful that it has the power to make everyone around you to feel your happiness, and share it.


So…always say cheese! Nothing to lose, just begin your day with a smile on your face ~

Losing Weight Not Life!

Safer Diet~

Sometimes, increasing in our body size reducing our self confidence, we feel uncomfortable, shy, i mean, in some cases, fat does killing us softly inside...but, remember, we can put away unnecessary fat from our body...safely using a way called "diet". Don't do it extremely...slow and steady...and you'll be a heartbreaker with no broken heart inside ..hehe...below are some useful tips~

• reducing rice, potatoes, and other foods that have high amount of carbohydrate in your daily meals. Do not drink water containing to much sugar like softdrinks, always better to drink fruit juice, but not to much of sweet fruits like watermelon.
  
  
• Never stop eating! don't harm yourself, you must eat. The best is that you eat q quite heavy breakfast and that's it, for lunch and dinner just eat some light meals, or fruit, my suggestion, papaya try to find to teach youself to eat fresh vege, really good for health and diet.
  
  
  
  

• Don't have to avoid your friends when they ask you out to eat, just follow them and order meals that based on liquid, like soup, porridge or just order some salads
  
  
  



• Always eat according to the diet pyramid, take a meal that contain all of it in the right balance once a day is enough.

• Of course, you must exercise REGULARLY, jogging for at least 10 minutes a day,and if you really really are a busy man, then you can just do some push up, jumping or just walk around your house several times.
  
  
• Drinks, a lot! sometimes drinking can chase your hunger away..yeah...
  

Ok, i hope my tips can help those who trying hard everyday trying to put off weight, but at the same time still alive and kickin'!

Tips for your relation

PRESERVING RELATIONSHIP

You really care for your love one,and always afraid that your relation might come to an end, need help to keep your relation smooth and happy, there’re some tips that might help ;

<->NEVER LIE !

Nothing actually hurt as bad as a lie can cause. Hearts get broken, tears falling, love killed, and hatred born. Quite dramatic, but actually true, if you lie to the person you love, it’s actually similar like you planted a time bomb in your relation. Be honest, always…relation based on a lie is actually no relation at all….

<->QUEEN/KING CONTROL PROBLEM

Don’t get to bossy, no one like it naturally , don’t treat your love one as your slave, even if she is your wife, this kind of problem will make your couple feels like living in an invisible prison, uncomfortable and these kind of feelings should never exist in a relation

<->EXPECTATIONS

Love your love one for what he or she is, don’t expect them to be someone else, they’re not sir optimus prime, just normal human being, cannot transform. Expectations actually create pressure, this will emotionally torture them, and can put a stop to your relation, just avoid this.

<->DON’T GET TOO JEALOUSY

Actually jealous is a real love sign, but too much can cause a lot of problem, you’ll start quarreling, you’ll feel tired like butter spread over too much bread…so, stop thinking bad about your spouse, pray for the best, and always ask him or her to be honest…

Hope that all the tips can be your pain-killer…healer…huhu~

Parents And Children

Understanding parents

Usually children, especially teenagers love to think that their parents just don’t understand them, what they want, why, where they want to go, their hobby and everything else. But the fact is, does we children ever spend some times thinking of our parents mind, why would they made such decisions, why did they got so angry at things that we did which for us only a small matter? Why? It is because they’re born before us. They lived on this world for such a long time, facing numerous incidents, knowing a many types of people and get really matured as time goes by.

Parents usually/normally:

1 ) Always think of what’s the best for their children, sometimes hesitating what their children wanted most

2 ) parents usually think and do and do things practically, according to their own past experience which are actually good for their children, but the way they make their children to follow what they want, the way they approached them, can sometime be the destroyer.

3 ) Some parents just failed to understand when their children actually already grown up and still they look at their children as they’re still small and didn’t have the ability to think and make decision on their own.

What are the consequences when parents failed to understand their children?


1) Usually children get frustrated, depressed and these will then creating a huge ‘gap’ between them and their parents.

2)Children lost their interest to share their personal life and problems with their parents.
Children will assume that their friends are more understanding, and sometimes they even willing to do things and sacrifice for them without thinking much of effects it will bring to their future.

3)Children who have problem with their parents, usually failed to be a good leader, and have low self-esteem.

Sometimes, parents might just forget that children, even if they’re already a teenager, they can’t think maturely enough, especially when it comes to their personal matters, where theory n logic just doesn’t apply. Children are born to love their parents always love their parents, always, but sometimes, when problem arose, both side need to really think what are the best approached to reach each other, solve the problem ,and left no “scratch” on their relation~

Loving yourself ~

Emotional stability

When you were born into this world, and still alive, no matter what the colour of your skin, what position you hold, where do you lived, level of your study, and even whether you are normal or not, but if you are still alive, and breathing , it is always a great gift from Allah that we all should be grateful of .

It is a normal life facing with problems, obstacles, failures, frustrations and everything, but just always bear in mind that it is not a right thing to harm you body, physically or mentally because of your problem. Allah will never test a person beyond the limit that he or she can withstand. Life is always beautiful, never throw it all away just because it gets bumpy a little bit in the middle.

First , let see how we can take care our inner side, the heart and soul, or mental and emotion part of our self.

Panic attacks!


Yes, it’s panic attacks!, and guess what, this panic thing really helps you nothing when you encounter any sudden problems and obstacles. Just making things worst, it actually also have bad effects on your behavior, you when you get panic, there are some usual effects on your self ;

· Your heart starts to beat faster
· You’ll start sweating
· There’ll be a rush of adrenaline in your blood
· The ability of your mind to think wisely decreased and often you’ll made wrong decision
· Sometime your body start to shiver and in usually you tend to forget things that you’d memorized

Everybody, relax, take it easy ~… let see how we can actually over come this panic attacks, nervous thing ;

1. Always, always first take a very deep breath, don’t care, maybe not once just do it trice or even more, and smile, enough with a simple smile, or if you think this is just not enough, it’s okay if you just laugh, for example, when you walk into the exam hall, answering question you forget to revised, take a deep breath, smile, laugh at the question but not until you disturb others attention. Then you’ll be calmer, and your brain ability to recall what you memorized, or heard from your lecturer will increased. For Muslims, there are some prayers you can memorize and apply while facing this problem.
2. Say to your self that the problem you’re facing will never harm you, never that it has the power to kill you, or even touch you, it is not dangerous.
3. Remember that this panic attacks will not stay for a long time, it will go just within a short period.
4. If you’d watch a movie , “Awake”, played by Hayden Christensen,when he is still awake during his heart transplant procedure due to a phenomenon called anesthesia awareness, he is still awake when the dr. operated him, open up his chest, but he just paralyzed due to anesthesia procedures done on him and he can’t even talk or move a finger, but how he overcome the panic attack? The pain? He distract him self from focusing to what he’s facing, he focus into thing that he likes, that make him happy, remember just distract your mind from thinking of your problem, and think something nice.
5. If you panic because you think that a terrible experience going to repeat, remember, it rarely happened for a second times, unless you think too much about it that you’ll actually making it happened again. Past will never has the power becoming present, or future, you actually give it. The best way, forget the past!
6. Well, if you’d tried all the above and still didn’t worked out, there are some treatments you can take, for this problem, Cognitive Behavior Therapy is the most suitable one, please consult your dr. for further treatments.

1st love

Everybody has his or her own version of story to tell when they’re asked this famous question “How’s your first love ?” . But maybe, I believed that many of us don’t really realize when is it that that we actually should fall in love, and with whom?. We need to think deeply, who created us, who gave us the chance to see the faces of our parents, to see this world, to taste foods, and even to feel the touched of our beloved husband or wife? Yes Allah created us all, not only human , but everything around us, and a lot more that we can’t even think exist, we can’t even see, that’s why our first love actually is for Allah s.w.t, and for our prophet Muhammad s.a.w who’d gave us a lead to follow, to live this life in the right way and to find the real happiness with the blessing from Allah s.w.t.

We might have experience breaking up with our 1^st love couple, some find another, some just stays alone, some even killed themselves because of this, but for those who had this experience, just take a moment and relax, think, think deeply, are you really left alone? Of course it is hurt to left or be left by your love one, but just realize one thing, one thing is that no one love you more than Allah, one step you made closing yourself to Allah, a thousand step made by Allah getting close to you. You are not alone, and never alone. Please , don’t do any stupid things, don’t get too carried away by your feelings, think of Allah, your family around you, friends who’re willing to cheer you up. Please, love yourself first, then you can allow your heart to really love somebody else.